"First came a daughter followed soon by a son
And the horse I was riding broke into a run
Another baby, a girl child was born
And our lives changed forever as we all became one
... But a part of my soul was put on a shelf
As I slowly became someone else
We each during the course of our lives take parts of our selves and put them
away, on a shelf inside. I don't think we are even aware of this.
It occurs without thought.
Sometimes those parts get put away because our family disapproves or society
tells us that isn't appropriate for the role of our lives. We put away our
childish ways, sometimes our dreams and aspirations. Often, as women and
mothers we feel the need to put away those very aspects of ourselves that feed
our souls. We believe that our children need us to be whatever our definition
of "mother" is.
And yes we do need to be there for our children. Our families.
But be careful of the cost of putting too much of yourself away. Our children
need us to be ourselves, to be true to our inner longings. We need to model for
them that being yourself is important.
Those very parts we put away are still there. And they will be expressed, they
will rise. In a positve or negative way.
Sit with them, invite them to be a real part of who you are. They
often are the very thing you need to be for your own sanity, for your own self
This thread in my mind came to me because of a Facebook group I am part of, The
Art Journaler. Each month a wonderful theme is given with quotes and ideas to
use in an art journal. You can post your journal pages if you like. You can see the
lovely work of others. I am enjoying this group of supportive women. You can
find out more at The Art Journaler.
The lyrics are from a vocal artist from New Mexico, Susan Clark. Her voice,
music and lyrics have been a big part of my life. I love her music. She can be
found at Susan Clark Music.
Hope your weekend is beautiful and filled with love and laughter!